#10: Should white people use white skin tone emojis?

#10: Should white people use white skin tone emojis?

Dear Ally (Skills Teacher), I'm a cis white man in the U.S., and I have a leadership role at a tech company that uses Slack for communication and has many employees from marginalized groups. Slack has a default "skin tone" for emojis, which is a cartoon-y yellow by default but can be set to another … Continue reading #10: Should white people use white skin tone emojis?

#9: I want all-gender bathrooms at work but worry about retaliation against my coworker

#9: I want all-gender bathrooms at work but worry about retaliation against my coworker

Dear Ally (Skills Teacher), I work at a large university in Florida, where I've been the Administrative Assistant in our building for more than a decade. I'm white, female, cis, and queer. We currently have a "men's" bathroom and a "women's" bathroom. I've been wanting to make our building's bathrooms all-gender for a while because … Continue reading #9: I want all-gender bathrooms at work but worry about retaliation against my coworker

#8: How do I make people to want to act as allies?

#8: How do I make people to want to act as allies?

Dear Ally (Skills Teacher), I'm a white man in a position of cultural and professional privilege at an engineering-focused tech company. Some of the other white men here have privately admitted to me that they no longer participate in conversations of race and gender. They're scared of the shame they'll face if they say something … Continue reading #8: How do I make people to want to act as allies?

#6: What do I do about oppressive speech from clients?

#6: What do I do about oppressive speech from clients?

Dear Ally (Skills Teacher), I am a white man who is a low-rung-on-the-ladder employee at a small technology company that is a vendor for several moderately sized banking companies. When on conference calls our clients, I often hear their clients making oppressive comments. My boss (and owner of the company) is a woman of color … Continue reading #6: What do I do about oppressive speech from clients?

#5: How do I learn what racism looks like in an unfamiliar culture?

#5: How do I learn what racism looks like in an unfamiliar culture?

Dear Ally (Skills Teacher), I am a white foreigner living in the U.S., so aside from my accent my privilege is most alike the rest of the white, middle-class, college educated community. However, I have an ignorance about racism here that I am not sure how to rectify. I have a much better understanding of … Continue reading #5: How do I learn what racism looks like in an unfamiliar culture?

#4: What do I tell men who are afraid to mentor women?

#4: What do I tell men who are afraid to mentor women?

Dear Ally Skills Teacher, Men in senior roles, like me, have a responsibility to mentor junior women, to ensure women have a fair chance to succeed. But men have recently gotten frightened by #MeToo and are pulling back from this responsibility. I've had direct conversations with men about this, and I'm convinced I have to … Continue reading #4: What do I tell men who are afraid to mentor women?

#3: How do I stop excessive praise for ally work?

#3: How do I stop excessive praise for ally work?

Dear Ally (Skills Teacher), I'm a cis white man and for years I've been attending a tech conference, also organized by cis white men. They've worked hard to create an event that's welcoming and inclusive to members of marginalized groups. In the past, they've asked people who were traditionally underrepresented in tech to speak to … Continue reading #3: How do I stop excessive praise for ally work?